Posted by: Anonymous
Re: persistent private messages - 06/26/13 02:27 PM
This has happened to me several times, in forums and in the real world when i was travelling alone. This is not happening because you're a woman.
Some people have difficulties accepting boundaries, get really clingy once they've trapped you into a conversation, insist on offering you inappropriate gifts or insist on inviting you home even after you have made clear that you don't want to. Of course they always stay nice and friendly and when you get angry they act like it is a big misunderstanding - on your side. There really is no clean way out of this.
It's always a pretty obvious play to con you into something you clearly don't want to do.
I really doubt quitting this forum or the internet is a solution to this problem.
My advice, just let it be and don't reply when you feel harassed.
Or if you really want to engage them, use clear language (there is no point in being polite, when you're being harassed), set clear boundaries and leave the rest to the ignore-button or to the admins.
Some people have difficulties accepting boundaries, get really clingy once they've trapped you into a conversation, insist on offering you inappropriate gifts or insist on inviting you home even after you have made clear that you don't want to. Of course they always stay nice and friendly and when you get angry they act like it is a big misunderstanding - on your side. There really is no clean way out of this.
It's always a pretty obvious play to con you into something you clearly don't want to do.
I really doubt quitting this forum or the internet is a solution to this problem.
My advice, just let it be and don't reply when you feel harassed.
Or if you really want to engage them, use clear language (there is no point in being polite, when you're being harassed), set clear boundaries and leave the rest to the ignore-button or to the admins.